Only Fat People Can Read This.

The hypocrisy, attention and arguments surrounding body weight and image, in the media and in social groups, is one that has always been around, but one that I think is definitely getting worse.

Songs, articles, images. Whatever it is, if somebody is “too” much of something then they should be ashamed of it.

Everyone knows how much I love Sam Smith. Last week, I read an article about him; one that was supposed to discuss his singing, super-fast rise to fame and how he feels in the lime light. All of this positivity and success were quickly followed and intertwined by comments about his appearance. How he isn’t super skinny with a six-pack. How his image isn’t ideal and the ‘norm’. How he looks ‘more like a HGV driver than a pop star’. Why should his appearance undermine his talent and singing?

If you are putting yourself into a job which is all about image, people may suggest you “deserve” or should “expect” the scrutiny that follows. No you shouldn’t. Modelling isn’t about the person wearing the clothes. It is about the clothes. And if you as a designer want to create clothes for size 4 models to show off your fashion, that is completely fine. Because there are normal working women who are size 4 who will buy the clothes and look beautiful in them. There are also women of many other sizes that can’t fit into the clothes you offer but can wear other things and look totally glam.

If you are a size 12 and can’t fit into this size 4 clothing, should you then hate said size 4 woman for being too skinny? No. Size 12 women, you can wear the nice jeans that show off that booty you’re holding up and look fab in them.

And what about the clothes that are created for “plus-size” women? Because you enjoyed eating the whole of the chocolate cake, you are now expected to lust after the beautiful skinny girls and want to be just like them because everybody fancies skinny girls whilst also chewing on your own guilt. No. You get to wear clothes that look just as good on you.

The fact is, everyone can make themselves look hot. It’s not about how small you have to be to fit into the hotness, it’s about finding what makes you hot and emphasising it.

If there must be a competition, let it be about the clothes, not the amount of body underneath them.

Since ITV released the line-up to I’m a Celebrity, Twitter has been going crazy. The amount of hate Gemma Collins has received from keyboard warriors about her weight is ridiculous. How sad they’d be if they had to share food with her, how she’ll probably eat someone a few days into the programme, how dangerous it will be when she parachutes into the jungle. If you are going to criticise her, criticise her for something that bothers you. If her weight is what bothers you, then you should realise how stupidly sad that makes you.

Truth is, none of this matters.

People have been fighting so long to eradicate labels. We still have labels. By categorising people in certain ways, we can attach both positive and negative connotations to that category without caring about the people it affects. 

When we are able to accept people as people and not as a 'type', we will have a breakthrough.

“You are not fat. You have fat. You also have fingernails, but you’re not a fingernail.”